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Ep 14: Diagnosing Diane w/ Child Life Specialist Diane Morales

Child life specialist, Diane Morales spends her time helping young patients through the process of being in the hospital. She watches patient after patient being assessed, treated, and discharged. It was frustrating to her when she woke up one day with a mysterious and dull neck pain. No big deal though, until it wouldn’t go away, for years. Thus leading Diane into a journey of trying to deal with this pain, causing her to look into painful moments in her life, when she began to believe the pain could be somatic. Diane recounts the tragic death of two friends and one of the scariest days of her life. The people need to know for this episode include, The Girl With the Lower Back Tattoo, by Amy Schumer, Oprah’s Super Soul Conversation with Amy Schumer, and Candy Girl, by Diablo Cody. You can follow Diane on Instagram @adventuresinchildlife or check out her blog at adventuresinchildlife.com. Get involved with DC&CM community on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter, under the handle @dcandcm.

Blog Post, The People Need to Know!, Written by Alé

Podcast Recommendation? Have Six!

Need a podcast recommendation that will inspire, uplift or make you laugh?
6 Podcast Recommendations: to uplift, inspire, or make you laugh.  Where Should We Begin, Conversations with People who Hate Me, Oprah's Super Soul Sunday, My Favorite Murder, Why Won't you Date me, and Transitional Wisdom

Looking for a podcast recommendation? There are 18 million podcasts currently available to stream! If you are just getting started out listening to podcasts, or are looking for something new to add to your library, read on. Having a three hour daily commute has given me the time to listen to a lot of podcasts. This collection of six podcasts will uplift and inspire you, or just make you laugh out loud. If you are enjoying the Dream Chasers and Change Makers Podcast, you’ll find another show you love here! (If you haven’t heard our show, stop reading and go listen!) Click any of the titles to get a direct link to my podcast recommendations.

1. Where Should We Begin: With Esther Perel

The logo for the podcast recommendation, Where Should we Begin with Esther Perel.  The title is printer over a couple's bed.
A Podcast for when you want a peek into the lives of others.

Esther Perel invites listeners into her office as she provides couples’ therapy to her clients. I love being a fly on the wall in other people’s therapy sessions! The clients reveal the strains in their relationships, ranging from infidelity, to substance use, to abuse. Esther’s skillful and direct approach, and her French accent make the show both educational (for a budding therapist like me) and entertaining.

2. Conversations with People Who Hate Me

The logo for the podcast recommendation, Conversations with People Who Hate Me.  The title in a speech bubble of host, Dylan Marron's head.  He is sitting at a desk in front of a computer holding a red telephone.
A podcast for when you want to hear a civil discussion with people who fundamentally disagree.

Something I am working on is open communication with people who think and believe differently than I do. That is why I love CWPHM. Dylan Marron started this podcast interviewing people who had sent him cruel and hateful messages and comments online. Now he often connects guests who have received online hate to their haters. The conversations are thoughtful and everyone is treated with respect and dignity. The show reminds us that, “There is a human on the other side of the screen.” Dylan’s approach to this topic is refreshing and fills me with hope!

3. Oprah’s Super Soul Conversations

Podcast Recommendation: Oprah's Super Soul Conversations.  Text over a blue and green background.
A podcast for when you want to go deep and feed your soul.

I mean, obviously if it’s Oprah, it’s got to be good. At Dream Chasers and Change Makers, our whole “thing” is deep, brave, vulnerable conversations. Super Soul Conversations is exactly that, with some of the world’s brightest minds and spiritual teachers. This podcast goes deep! Oprah interviews guests about topics like spirituality, the afterlife, the human condition, and life’s hardest lessons.

4. My Favorite Murder

Podcast Recommendation: My Favorite Murder with Karen Kilgariff and Georgia Hardstark.  Cut out Magazine Letters over a black background.
A podcast for you’re in the mood for murder with a side of fun!

MFM is a true crime/comedy podcast, hosted by the hilarious and talented Georgia Hardstark and Karen Kilgariff. Their comedic timing, impeccable storytelling skills, and chemistry makes this show a treat. Not only do they recount the stories of infamous murders, the hosts give us a glimpse into their lives, and are candid about their mental health battles. They are very conscious of respecting victims and tear down perpetrators in side-splitting ways. Their fandom is #goals. The My Favorite Murder community is enormous. Join in on the fun by subscribing to the fan cult or one of the hundreds of Facebook groups.

5. Why Won’t You Date Me?

Podcast Recommendation: Why Won't you Date Me?  With Nicole Byer.  A cartoon version of Nicole Byer with her arms stretched out, signaling "Why?"
A podcast for when you can’t figure out why the hell you’re so single, or need a belly laugh!

You know her, you love her, she is Nicole Byer, host of Netflix’s Nailed It! In her NSFW podcast she asks the question, “Why am I so single even though I will [insert wild sexual act here.]” Nicole has guests talk about their dating and sex lives, and has them review her multiple dating profiles. I have to say, almost nothing makes me laugh as hard as this delightful podcast. Not only does she make me pee my pants in laughter, she is all about embracing her body, sexuality, and bold personality. Even the ads are ridiculously funny. 10 out 10 recommend for podcast recommendation!

6. Transitional Wisdom

Podcast Recommendation: Transitional Wisdom.  Black and white sketch of the hosts' faces with the title printed below.
A podcast for when you want to learn what life is like for those in the trans* community!

We love supporting our friends and independently produced podcasts like ours! I proudly make this podcast recommendation. Hosts Nash and C talk all things trans*, including medical transitioning, dating while transgender, allyship, and more. If you are part of the LGBTQ+ community, love someone who is, or want to learn more about the life experiences of those in the trans* community. They also feature captivating interview from high profile people in the trans* community, parents of trans* children, and supporters of the LGBTQ. No matter how you identify, this podcast has something for you.

Hope you podcast recommendation that you love! What would add to our list? Let us know in the comments!

Published by Alé Cardinalle |LMSW Candidate NYU 19’| Podcast Enthusiast

Blog Post, Manifest Your Best Life, Written by Alé

5 Tips to Manifest Self Compassion

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By, now we’ve all heard the term “self care.” You may have heard it explained with quotes like, “You cannot pour from an empty cup,” or “You must put your oxygen mask first, before you can assist other passengers.” That is all great information, and very true. While self care is specific ways to take care of yourself, from the mundane like making sure your space is tidy, to splurges like a day at the spa, self compassion is more of a way of being.

Self compassion, as I define it, is fine tuning that voice inside your head to speak to yourself as you would a loved one. Extensive research has shown that the power of self compassion reaches farther than having high self esteem and those that are high on the self compassion scale are more productive and tend to procrastinate less. I would say that is a super power for any dream chaser and change maker!

1 Little Exercise Before we Dive In!

Stay with me, because before we get into the 5 ways to cultivate self compassion in your life we are going to do a little exercise. Think of the last time that you did not live up to your own expectations. What did you say to yourself? Really take a second to think of the self talk you used. I’ll be waiting right here.

Okay! Now I want you to think of someone you love very much, maybe your partner, your best friend, or a parent. Would you EVER speak to them the way you spoke to yourself? Probably not. Maybe you said something cruel about your appearance, or marked yourself a failure. These are lies and are not serving you in reaching your highest potential. Negative self talk does not motivate you to persevere, nor does it bring you any closer to joy or fulfillment. While self compassion is a way of being kinder and gentler with yourself, it is no means giving you an “out” to slack and not get things done.

So where do you start? Well, read on and I’ll tell ya.

1. Define your values.

An open journal to placed on the blog page to encourage readers to write out their values and explore their "why."

Now is a great time to dust off that old notebook or journal that’s been laying around your bedroom and write or even draw symbols of what is REALLY important to you. What is the driving force in your life? What are you striving for? Where do your priorities lie right now? If you are a student, why do you show up for class and complete your assignments? If you are a parent, what is the vision you see for your family? Perhaps you are an entrepreneur trying to grow your business. Whatever your circumstances may be, take this time to explore your “why.”

Being well oriented with your values will help guide and anchor you. When life gets complicated and important decisions have to be made, falling back on what is really important to you can be a helpful tool.

2. Nip Negative Self Talk in the Bud

We can say awful things to ourselves and not even think twice about it. I will challenge you here to be more conscious of that– I don’t want you saying mean things about my friend! So, you, my friend, make an effort to notice when you are using unkind words to speak to yourself. We train our brains, and while making a new habits like this we create new pathways in our brain.

When you do catch yourself, take a pause and ask yourself, “Is there another way I can say that?” For example, if you did not land a job you really wanted, or a presentation did not go the way you had hoped, instead of saying, “I am such a failure,” you could say, “I did my best and I have learned from this experience.” You tweak this to your specific circumstances, and make sure the kinder words you chose are also true. You want to believe in those empowering words.

The more you catch yourself and the more you practice speaking kindly to yourself, the more natural it will become. This is scientific fact folks!

3. Keep Calm and Use an Affirmation

An affirmation is simple statement often used to uplift and motivate and can be a really useful tool in cultivating more self compassion. There are tons and tons of affirmations online you can access with a quick google search, for example, “affirmations for a positive body image,” or “affirmations for bringing wealth into my life.” You can also write your own that is custom tailored to you. I think that makes it all the more empowering. You can repeat your affirmation to yourself as often as you like.

Find or write one or a few that speak to you and make them visible. Sticky notes are your friend! Often, I will suggest my clients stick their affirmations on their desks or work spaces, in the mirrors in their bathrooms, on their bedroom wall, or wherever they experience negative self talk the most. For clients who feel a little strange that people may see their affirmation I suggest they keep it handy on their phone and stick a blank sticky just as a private reminder to themselves to use their affirmation.

Sticky Note with an affirmation that says, "I surround myself with positive people who bring out the best in me."

Examples: I am powerful and loved. | I am enough. | My body is a gift that carries me through life. | Everyday I am attracting money into my life.

4. Touch Yourself!

Brunette woman wearing sunglasses and a scarf giving herself of a squeeze in an act of self compassion

I am not being funny here. Touch releases oxytocin, a chemical in our brain connected with love and positive feelings. When you feel like you need a boost you can give yourself a hug. It may sound strange, but again, we can’t argue with science! Stroke your arm, give yourself a little squeeze and release that oxytocin!

5. Yes, and Self Care!

Although self compassion and self care are not interchangeable terms, self care certainly would fall under the umbrella of self compassion. If self compassion means treating yourself as you would a loved one, taking time to meet your needs is essential.

What your self care looks like is up to you, as you are the expert on you! Mine ranges from making sure I am staying connected to friends and family to making sure I pick up my prescriptions are filled and picked up on time. If you want more information on what self care and what it may look like for you, again, google is our trusty friend. Maybe it is yoga and mediation, maybe it’s more sleep and well-rounded eating. Maybe you are a busy parent and it is setting boundaries to make sure you’ve had the time to bathe and sit down for a meal. The point is, ask yourself what you need and prioritize that.

Brunette woman in fancy bathtub practicing self care
Self Care in a Fancy Hotel Tub!

Dr. Kristen Neff (literally) wrote the book on self compassion. For more in depth information and the research behind this stuff head to her website: https://self-compassion.org/.

By Alé Cardinalle | LMSW Candidate NYU 2019

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Ep 3: Bravely Vulnerable

Listener discretion advised. This episode includes discussions of sexual abuse, intimate partner violence and themes of suicide. There is also a ton of hope and joy and laughter, but it’s a heavy episode. Get to know the hosts of the show on a bravely intimate level. If you like the show please rate and review, it helps us tremendously. Connect with us on all social media @dcncmpod. Enjoy the episode.

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Episode 2: Kind of in a Cult w/ Becca Levin

In our first guest interview, we talk to Becca, who shares the story of how she navigated her way out of a secluded upbringing. She tells us why and how she left the heavy influence a devoutly religious parent to find her own truth. Listen now to find how Becca went from being a little girl picketing outside women’s health clinics, to teaching kids from 6 to 60 to play music and rock on.

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Ep 1: My Imaginary BFF, Oprah

In our first episode meet the hosts of Dream Chasers and Change Makers! We will set our intentions for the podcast, share what makes us tick and what breaks our heart. Don’t forget to comment what and leave a review tell us what change making work you are doing in your life and we will read it next time. (Social Media Accounts we love: @therealalexandrabillings and @kimamani)

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So excited to start this journey!

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